To Forgive is to Forget

When a certain person did something to you which made an impact either in your physical or emotional condition, he/she asks you for forgiveness. But first of all, what is forgiveness? We humans forgive someone who did something to you. But there's a saying "to forgive is to forget". Is it really an applicable one?

An instance in my life can be somehow familiarized with this saying. There was a time when I cannot retain myself from keeping the questions spinning in my head about a certain event with someone. One day, I cannot retain it anymore. I asked her about those questions. I didn't think that she will be disturbed so much that she felt so much pain in herself. I only thought of myself. It felt like I was trying to escape on it. That's when I realized that I was wrong. I asked for her forgiveness and she told me just to forget about it. I know, that it is too difficult for her to forget it because it brought her so much pain. But after that, we still became friends. I still don't know if it is still bothering her, but I told myself that I will NEVER do it again. 

"To Forgive is to Forget". Just simple words but possess a high amount of meaning. I know, that in some events, it is difficult to forgive someone,especially if it is something too heavy to carry by the receiver. But with these saying, we can forgive a person by simply forgetting the sin or the fault that he/she has done. It is just like we will just obliterate it. We will just let our emotions flow and we will allow that event to be washed away as the droplets continue to fall from the sky. It is a good way since it will make the friendship to be united once again easily, but the question is, is it really easy to allow it to disappear? 

For my opinion, it is somehow not quite that right. For me, we will not forget the thing that a person did to you, instead that event will be a lesson for me and that person not to do it again. I'm not saying that I will not forgive him. It is not easy just to forget it and will just remove it from your feelings. That's why for me, it is not right. 

"The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it's not because they forget; it's because they forgive", Demi Moore. This is just one of the quotes that are simple in its form but with a deeper meaning and interpretation in our life. I know that forgiving a person is a difficult thing to do. It takes your own emotion to build up to think about it. For me, the best way for this is to avoid doing such faults to someone that will hurt them.